Breath awareness is foundational to mindfulness. In the practice, we choose an area of the breathing passage—the nostrils, chest or abdomen. Then we rest our attention in that place and observe the sensations of each inhalation and exhalation. Simple, right? Anyone who has practiced breath awareness knows that it may be simple, but it’s not easy. Our minds wander—a lot. This may be frustrating, but it’s absolutely normal. Sometimes it’s a challenge to get through even a single inhalation or exhalation before our minds spin out. But often, unbeknownst to us, the mind loses track in another, often overlooked, phase of the breath—the pause.
After each exhalation, there’s a pause. It might be short, a split second. Or it might be several seconds, depending on our own unique breathing rhythm. The pause can be shorter or longer depending on the state of our minds and bodies. Are we feeling anxious or agitated? Or are we feeling calm and concentrated? How does the state of the body/mind affect our breathing?
For example, when my mind is calm and concentrated, my in breaths and out breaths are minuscule. The pause after exhaling can be 15 to 20 seconds. This makes breath awareness much more challenging. There’s barely any inhalation or exhalation to be mindful of, and a whole lot of “down time” for my mind to wander elsewhere. So how do you practice breath awareness in this situation?
For me, the solution has been to recognize the pause as an equal part of the breath. This helps me to maintain continuity of awareness. But what is there to be mindful of when there’s no actual breathing? Actually, a lot. At any given moment, we’re pretty much being bombarded by sensation. All our senses are receiving input.
For example, during the pause, you could direct your attention to your sense of hearing. Or if there’s not a lot of sound in your current environment, you can pay attention to sensations of contact—your hips and legs in contact with your meditation cushion or chair; the contact of your clothing, or even the air around you, with your skin. Granted, some of these sensations might be subtle, but tuning into subtlety is part of practice.
You could also practice your breath awareness focusing on the larger frame of your whole body, rather than a particular spot in the breathing passage. You settle back into your body, aware of all the arising and passing sensations everywhere in your body. The inhalation and exhalation are simply two of the many sensations you experience. When you practice this way, the inhalation, exhalation and pause connect seamlessly. They’re all part of the same ever-changing tableau.
So being aware of the pause helps you maintain more continuous awareness. But just as important, it gives you access to awareness itself. Pema Chodron famously said, “You are the sky. Everything else is just the weather.” What she’s pointing to is nothing less than our boundless nature. We are awareness. All the sensations that are constantly passing through awareness are the “weather.” But we tend to focus on the “weather” rather than the sky. Opening to the pause allows us to rest in awareness. We can begin to explore awareness itself—our true nature.
Here are a few tips that might be helpful for settling into the pause: